NLP In Layman’s Terms
Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, is the integration of three important concepts in our lives. It is the combination of our neuro (brain) processes, our linguistic inputs of experience, and the programming that occurs between the two. As a science, it was developed in the early 1970s by John Grinder and Richard Bandler.
Here in Bournemouth on the south coast of the UK where I live, if you want to use local refuse facilities, then you have to drive all your rubbish or waste up there and show them your council tax bill or some other evidence that you are a tax payer in the region and thus allowed to be there. Recently, it was decided that our lawnmower had to be taken there and a new one was to be purchased. The old one had outlived it’s expected time on this planet and sheer laziness on my part had…Ask Meta Model Questions
Each time you run into some possible conflict or disagreement with the people around you, you can control the situation by using what is termed in NLP as “meta model questions”. Meta Model questions seek to get into the actual thoughts, values, and beliefs of the other person. If those beliefs are negative or “distorted” in some way, you can turn them into a positive perspective. (In fact, meta model works best against distortions, deletions and generalizations in the language of others).
Each person sees an experience, situation, or event in a different way. This unique way of viewing things is called a frame. Due to varying beliefs and values of people, any given person can have “limited” frames. Just as a picture frame has borders that limit the picture, so do we have psychological borders that limit our perception to a certain perspective.Benefiting From A Sympathetic Listener Using Self-Hypnosis
Many hypnotherapists that I mentor and supervise talk about how the client just talked and talked and talked and talked and talked. They just (for want of a better expression) dumped a load in the therapy session.